Some ideas on turning 41!
The previous couple of years I’ve written letters about Turning 39 and Turning 40. Each years felt very important and a giant turning level within the age spectrum.
At present I’m turning boring #41.
Final night time mates and I went to King Household Vineyards for trivia. It was a blast! My birthday want right this moment is to calm down at dwelling, go to my favourite exercise class, and luxuriate in a simple dinner at dwelling with the boys. Tomorrow Thomas and I’ve a giant night time out in town.
It’s been a busy few weeks celebrating plenty of Libras and Scorpios!
Some issues I’ve seen in my 40s so far:
I nonetheless really feel like a younger grownup
I’d say my mind feels prefer it’s within the 33-34 age vary. And to assume that was nearly a decade in the past.
The time I really feel most like a 40 12 months previous is once we play groups of 20 12 months olds on the soccer subject. Geez they’re fast! Our crew’s common age is someplace within the higher 30s to decrease 40s, and we’re continually joking about needing to retire from the principle league that has too many 20 12 months olds working round.
My physique is slowing down
Talking of working round, I’m now not the quickest, quickest, strongest model of myself. I really feel like upon hitting 40 my mindset modified from “push your self as arduous as you may!” to “DON’T GET HURT!” In my health club lessons I’m going at 90% as an alternative of 100% as a result of I really concern if I went at 100 I’d break or tear one thing. I’m nonetheless coping with a shoulder problem that may plague me perpetually, however I’ve realized learn how to handle it.
Truthfully I’m so grateful that I’m able to be energetic. From my foot points throughout my school years, I do know what it seems like not to have the ability to transfer your physique, and I’m so grateful I’m able to transfer mine how I would like. Some days that’s strolling to and from the preschool twice and that’s what feels actually good. Different days it’s a 2 hour soccer recreation after which a couple of days of relaxation afterwards. Relaxation is now a requirement.
Regardless of my physique slowing down a bit, I’m my most assured self on the health club. Health has all the time been a means for me to blow off steam, join with others, and destress, and I all the time really feel completely happy in my group ex lessons. This submit comes up rather a lot in dialog with different girls my age.
Most ladies I speak to about physique picture say that their energy and talent is extra essential than appears to be like. Most individuals aren’t prepared to sacrifice life to look a sure means. I believe that is each knowledge that comes with age and acceptance of what’s.
Nothing is as essential as sleep
I noticed this humorous meme not too long ago from Emily Freeman about sleep in your 20s, 30s, and 40s:
Final weekend was packed 3 sporting occasions and three birthday events. We occasion hopped each Saturday and Sunday from one to the opposite. And each days as we had been driving dwelling at 5pm to placed on sweatpants, cook dinner or eat leftovers, and have a quiet night time in, Thomas and I remarked that we really cherished having daytime occasions and comfortable evenings in. “We’re daytime folks” he mentioned. You couldn’t pay me to remain out previous midnight today! (Truly we’re going to a live performance tomorrow night time and can most likely be out till 11 and I’ll want all day Saturday to relaxation, haha.)
Life is sophisticated
Like a fantastic wine, there are layers upon layers to our lives. I’m continually combating for simplicity whereas additionally accepting that with a husband, two youngsters, and a home to handle, nothing will ever be easy. Whereas programs (like these I educate in my Digital Litter program) assist to maintain me organized with the entire adulting duties, once I get overwhelmed with all there’s to do time clever, I’ve to remind myself to zoom out rather a lot and bear in mind what actually issues. Folks matter. Well being issues.
This 12 months hasn’t been a simple one for us. Between the stress of our renovation (logistics, transferring twice and managing the funds of all of it), after which some unhappy and sophisticated household dynamics that I can’t share on-line, there was rather a lot happening backstage. We’ve got tried arduous to assist those that want assist and do the correct factor even when we now have been wronged. There are query marks that I want had been commas.
Regardless of the above paragraphs, once I zoom out and look down at this life from a birds eye view, issues are good. Being again in our home has exceeded all expectations, and on a day-to-day degree issues are nice.
What’s subsequent?
Subsequent weekend: we now have a enjoyable Friday night time out deliberate with mates (the boys are going to do a sleepover with their grandparents!) after which a fifth party for Birch on his huge day. Spoiler alert: it’s Star Wars themed 😉
Subsequent month: we’re internet hosting Thanksgiving in our new home!
Subsequent 12 months: we now have not one however two tropical holidays deliberate! One simply Thomas and me and one with the youngsters. I booked each journeys 100% on bank card factors and am engaged on an e-book coaching for getting began with free journey. (Somebody please present me time for my birthday so I can end it!)
Thanks for approaching this journey of life with me one other 12 months,
xx,
Kath
Cake at 39
